Like don't say, you make me angry. It's when you do what and what values it violates. Not for people, not because you made me feel emotional, but for someone's behavior in a certain scene, time, and state, why it doesn't conform to the rules and values before our mutual agreement. Nothing is absolutely right or wrong, and no one is ever set in stone. Only contract and no contract. It is necessary to understand that colleagues are not friends, and there are more boundaries between colleagues, but there can also be love, and each relationship has its own way of getting along. Knowing that it is not a friend will save you from having to pay for many emotional burdens, such as "Will I make her uncomfortable".
In the past, I really often couldn't distinguish between colleagues and friends, but when I talked about work problems, the other party would feel hurt. There should be a reasonable way of getting along and a sense of boundaries for every relationship. As a boss, you need to reflect but don't over-reflect, always thinking it's your own problem. In fact, it is not a problem to special leads unpleasantly, it is the choice of communication efficiency. As long as you tell the other person in advance that I speak more directly and like to ask questions, you can be mentally prepared, otherwise, I have to think about how to say every sentence, which delays our communication efficiency, and may not be suitable in itself. Again, there is no right or wrong, it is a choice.
Leadership is not brainwashing, persecution, or punishment, but enlightenment and inspiration. But this does not mean that I need to teach every step like a teacher. After all, school is not a classroom. What I spend money on is productivity, and cultivation also pays attention to ROI and opportunity cost. If I spend time on you, it is I spend less time nurturing people/thinking about the general direction of my position. My first duty is definitely not to incubate and cultivate but to find a direction, to build on the right team (buy borrow build), to find money, set goals, and share money. Going back to training, if you want a person to develop good habits and good standards, the opportunity to really change people's habits is not when the other party is wrong, but when the other party is right (right or wrong here, Can be understood as meeting company values/standards or not).